At times when I have lost my temper, the shame and guilt prevent me from taking responsibility and discussing the situation with the girls. I convince myself that they hate me, and I have failed them as a mother. By the time I get out of self-loathing, I lie to myself that the time has passed to make amends and I should just ignore it. But know this... It's never too late to apologize to your child. Admitting when you were wrong in your actions and behaviors teaches your child that it is okay to have intense feelings, but to also take responsibility for those feelings when they affect others. The mother and child gain some experience in humility and a greater understanding of each other that can help straighten out future entanglements.
It is of utmost importance that we remember to take care to show and remind our little ones how much we love them. This love should be unconditional and infinite, extending beyond their lifetime, for the child they are now and the person they will become.
Mindful Minute:
- Can you observe your habits reflected in your child’s behavior?
- Are the behaviors being mirrored negative or positive?
- How does making this connection and seeing the impact you have on them feel?
- What strategies have you used when interacting with your child?
- What areas of the relationship could use improvement?
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