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Tantrums


        A child's emotional responses are almost always genuine based on the fact that they cannot yet fully comprehend the exact nature of what they are feeling. Whenever discipline is being enforced in our household, the oldest girls often respond with outlandish claims against their father and me. For example, I don't love them if I don't let them watch YouTube. 

        When my oldest throws a temper tantrum, our home can become a war zone. Toys are tossed across the room, craft projects are hastily shredded into confetti, and she makes sure the whole neighborhood knows how much disdain she has for her parents. It takes a lot for me not to stir up a spat with my toddler.

        Being the only adult in the situation, it is my responsibility to keep myself under control. I have to step back, take a deep breath, put my emotions to the side and talk myself through the situation.

“Let's see... she had dinner,
has been playing for a couple hours,
and she’s sobbing uncontrollably and no longer understands why she is sad or angry or whatever emotion she’s experiencing…
I could conclude that she is only tired and may simply need a nap.
In her sleepy daze she becomes delirious and no longer makes sense, leaving her pleas pointless…
I’m putting her to bed.”

        Just like my girls, there have been many times I’ve needed to stop and take a break from my day. Whether near exhaustion, overexertion, or a sedentary lifestyle has left you with a little less than 0% motivation, it can feel difficult to maintain balance and flow in everyday life. There will be times, probably after some endless battle to achieve something seemingly out of reach, that a brief moment of rest becomes necessary to reset the mind and approach the obstacle with a refreshed point of view.


Mindful Minute:

  • Do you partake in immature arguments with your children?
  • If so, does your objective get accomplished?
  • What strategies do you exercise with your children when tantrums/meltdowns occur?
  • What strategies have you tried for yourself when frustrated?
  • Are these strategies working for your family?
  • Why or Why not?
  • What are some calming techniques you can try?
  • What are some communication techniques?


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